This is a good one--and a difficult one. Here goes.
1. I would tell myself that the boy I liked didn't like me the way I thought he did, so just relax and enjoy the friendship for what it was. I would tell myself to not let this new knowledge affect our friendship though.
2. Don't worry so much and over-think things--to take things at face-value and live a little.
3. I would help myself learn how to love and accept myself and not doubt myself, pointing out all the good I see in myself. This in turn would teach myself to not get so emotionally involved in drama.
4. I would encourage myself to spend more time with my family and really work on developing my relationships with my brother and sister. I would tell myself to be better about being conversational with my dad in the car in the mornings.
5. I would tell myself the secret of spending time in the library to get things done. I would tell myself to push myself just a little harder and that it will pay off.
6. I would teach myself how to incorporate more exercise and portion-control into my life to start the habits at an even younger age. Along these lines I would warn myself that I sometimes I handle stress by overeating--so be aware of that.
7. I would tell myself to be more friendly and make more efforts to make everyone around me feel like my friend. I would tell myself to outreach to my girlfriends more.
8. I would tell myself to be more invested in my scripture study and to continue journaling frequently.
9. I would lift myself up, letting myself know that it would all be okay and that everything works out. I might consider letting myself know of better times ahead, but I wouldn't want to let myself start just longing for the future. So I would teach myself to look for all the good in my life daily and to not worry so much about friend issues, or driving, or dating.
10. I would STRONGLY encourage myself to save ALL my money. Or at least most of it.
If I could tell myself one more thing (if I were to cheat by adding more) I would also tell myself about some SWEET music so I could be ahead of my time and in the know--you know, build up my music cred.
I would probably be tempted to tell myself about the future--that in a year, my mom would get breast cancer and all of the other things our family dealt with and that it would be okay. I don't think I would, though--I would probably be a wreck still. It's true that it's best to not know.
|Me at age 16, January 2008|